The Foundation Of A M/s Relationship

I recently got an email from a woman who is a sub.  She is new to the life and is exploring exactly where she fits in.  She mentioned to me that she was always looking to please her partners in all her past relationships (which were traditional).  However, they always felt smothered by her needing to please them.  Nevertheless, after doing a bit of research she concluded that she is definitely a sub(she is not sure yet if she is a slave).  The reason for her inquiry to me is that she was approached by a number of me (online) seeking to Dom her.  What was interesting was that none of these people wanted to take the time to let a relationship develop.

It is important to remember that trust is the foundation of all success M/s relationships.  Without it, the interaction between the two will be guarded.  A truly effective relationship is where both individuals can give without reservation.  Trust is the bridge that allows this to happen.  Unfortunately, it is something that cannot be rushed.  It can only develop through the repeated interaction with each other.  Time is the one factor which will build trust.

People enter into relationships with all kind of experiences.  Most of us have suffered the heartache that comes with dating.  There are relationships which go sour no matter what the intentions are.  After a while, we become guarded in our willingness to freely give ourselve; at least initially.  This seems to be human nature and not particiular to any one type of individual.  We simply become “gunshy” if you will.

Taking the time to get to know a Master or slave will enusre that trust develops.  This can be done both online and in person.  Even in those situations where I have an online relationship, I like to speak with her on the phone.  There is a connection which comes from hearing someone’s voice.  Of course, as the relationship develops, we move closer together.  This is a result of each of us trusting the other.

So how does it start?  I have found that the experience and willingness of the other is vital.  If one is dealing with a Master, what is His experience in the lifestyle.  Those who were around a while with the background in owning slaves will garner trust easier than One who is inexpereinced.  Also, if One has the willingness to learn, this can compensate for a lot.  The same goes when dealing with a slave.  Experience and willingness are the two areas where trust can be built up.  Of course, the basic values of honesty, integrity, and keeping your word equally impact the amount of trust one receives.

Monitor how quickly you are trusting someone when entering into a M/s relationship.  Utilize the same tools which led to success in relationships in other areas of your life.  This is a basic building block in the effectiveness of your relationship.  To discount it will have negative consequences.

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