Society wants to label the behavior that we engage in as kinky or, worse, deviant. This is its’ way of putting those of us involved in it on a lower level. There is a perception that there is an appropriate way to behave sexually. Anything which strays from the norm is looked down upon. Thus, so are the people who are involved in that behavior.
The medical community seems to want to enhance this belief by focusing upon different fetishes which exist. They conclude that there is something wrong with us because we like things that are a bit more extreme than normal. Again, anything apart from the accepted ideals makes up oddballs.
Ironically, what we are involved in is the norm. The vanilla mindset of missionary position every other Thursday is far from reality. Most people like things spiced up a little more. Spankings, toys, and dirty talk are enjoyed by more couples then do not enjoy them. The only difference is some of us are more open about our likes than others.
Sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences known to mankind. It is something which should be enjoyed to the fullest. That said, who is capable of being the moral authority on the matter? There are many who want to sit on that throne; religious zealots, phsychologists, doctors, ministers, etc… It is important to remember that it is your life. Live it how you see fit.
For Me, I love this lifestyle. It offered something which I failed to find elsewhere. For this individual, the traditional lifestyle simply did not work. Does that make Me kinky because I choose a different method of living than what is perceived to be “normal”? Not in the manner which they are using the term. I am following a path which feels right within Me. That is the difference. I am choosing how I live. The ones judging are subscribing to a mindset that was given to them.
People who are into BDSM come from all walks of life. If people would only cease judging the lifestyle for a short period of time, they would realize that all that is offered here is the opportunity to design their lives (at least sexually) in a manner which is acceptable to them. Sexual freedom entails more than orgies, gangbangs, and bondage scenes. It is a state of mind that tells Me I can choose how I want to live. And, that does not make Me any less than anyone else.
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