Spanking is one of the main aspects of BDSM, that and bondage, add them together and the pleasure is intense, but even when taken separately the fun and enjoyment received from all parties is something that I personally love. There is something about having a bare ass, waiting for the strike of my hand, the feel of the crop that I am wielding or the flogger as I lay it across her ass that I find a great turn on, and if the sub or slave is what I term a ‘pain slut’ then the spankings and the slapping become even more enjoyable.
One thing I have found is that is a sub or slave enjoys the paddle across her ass, then as a punishment it is not something that can have the desired effect, upon saying that, if a certain piece of equipment, say a rubber flogger, is used solely for punishment then they will in time learn to associate that with wrong doing, so it will have the desired effect, however I prefer to use other methods in punishment with those subs and slaves as the message comes across clearer that they have displeased me in some way.
The strength behind a slap or a spanking is something that can be built on, remember we are not trying to ‘break’ them by putting all our strength behind whipping them, that then goes from pleasure to abuse, however we are wanting to strike them hard enough for them to feel it, to enjoy it and build their threshold.
Practice with things you have lying around the house, a fly swat can deliver a nice spank as can a hair brush or slipper, in fact even a news paper when rolled tightly can make a sub or slave groan in pleasure and pain, the only limit to what is used is your imagination and your sub/slaves threshold.
Have fun and enjoy all that this activity can add to your sex life.
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The difference between a punishment and a play flogging is quite distinct and is is of course the choice of the Dominant, who frames the scene by their words and attitudes. So whipping flogging paddling etc can still be effective real punishments, even for most pain sluts, IF D/s is a strong element in the relationship.
I’ve tried to explain (on a blog I write to) why I enjoy BDSM context pain or humiliation; as a switch I enjoy both sides, in very different ways. I think those are the major mysteries of BDSM to vanilla people, and maybe even to us; it’s a bit difficult to move beyond “well, we enjoy it; why does anyone like anything?”
I’d add to your advice on practicing – try anything you want to use on your sub, on yourself first, to get some idea of what minimal moderate and hard force means with that tool. You’ll have better control and can approach edges of tolerance better with that knowledge.