When people mention BDSM, all sorts of things run through their heads, ropes, whips, pain,tears to name but a few, but very rarely unless you are into this way of life are your first thoughts pleasure, orgasms, bondage,play time, etc etc so why is this ?
I think its because the internet for all its usefulness also portrays it as a way of life that can be cruel and harsh, the pictures found when you search the sites range from vanilla to extreme and unless you are fmiliar with the lifestyle and most of its components * I say most as I really feel that no one person is familiar with ALL the different things BDSM means to others * it can be very intimidating.
One of the first things people like to experiment with is bondage, and this is something that can be built on over time, starting out with a simple hand tying then building to ankles and finally full body and suspension, as with all things it is recommended that you do not jump the stages, a novice is not really qualified to do full body suspension bondage as it can have disasterous results !! Take your time, enjoy each stage and learn from it while having fun, its a great way to also build up the trust in a relationship as well.
My advice to all who are interested in this varid and extremely fulfilling way of life is to experiment and see what works for you and your partner, there is no right or wrong and no one way to live this life, the only limitations are the ones you both place upon it – but most of all HAVE FUN !!
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It’s not just the internet that has caused this view (as it is a relatively new invention), news and TV have developed the idea that all sadism is criminal sadism. The views of humiliation, pain, and the bondage to do life-threatening things are all part of the social psyche of what BDSM is.
You really can’t say you are kinky anymore without people conjuring up ideas of rope. It’s a relatively safe and easy way to explore your sexuality. Rope is also an item that people feel more comfortable with because it’s not as foreign as leather cuffs, for example. It doesn’t feel as kinky then.
Your choice of pictures, while beautiful for people already in BDSM, the focus of your post was more to the new or curious and I have to say that many of those pictures would scare them and reinforce the very idea of it being cruel and harsh. I’m sure some more mild bondage pictures would help reinforce your point to the inexperienced. Just a thought.