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There are many who consider the BDSM lifestyle to be sexually deviant. This is done by those who consider themselves to be sexually “normal”. Of course, the age-old saying “what is normal” comes to mind. The bottom line is what is normal for one is not normal for another. Those who engage in this lifestyle do so because it fits what they like. Anything that occurs between consenting adults is no one else’s business.

Perhaps Y/you are locked into the midset of what is normal sexually. For many, at first, the BDSM way of life seems a bit extreme. Yet, when O/one realizes that there are many different facets to this way of life, it seems that a lot of it is not so far out of wack. Take spanking for example. This is a deviant sexual activity to a few. These are the minority who believe that sex should be a certain way. However, research shows that more than 80% engage in some type of spanking during sex. Thus, not spanking is actually the deviant behavior.

There are those who like to term us perverts. Again, this is from someone who is interested in controlling through their judgements. The fact that I am a multiple slave owner does not make me a pervert; it makes Me One who is following my natural inclination. This is also true for the one who craves being tied up and used by her Dom/Master. It is a natural expression of her submissiveness which comes deep from within. There is nothing perverted about this.

Here is a clue: sex is designed to be fun and enjoyable. How O/one gets to that point is up to them. For some, the extreme side of the BDSM lifestyle is what T/they like. At the same time, many like to drift towards the lighter side. Neither of these groups is deviant sexually. They are people who enjoy the different aspects of this life.

So what is it that Y/you are looking for? Are you someone who craves more sexually. Perhaps it is time to look at what this lifestyle offers. Not everyone who is invovled with it is “leather”. Nor do all participate in orgies, groups, or dungeon scenes. If that is what you want, it is here for Y/you. However, if milder suits the desires within Y/you, that is available also. Either way, put those old prejudices to rest so that sexual life can be enjoyed

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Many have this desire: they would love nothing better than to be involved with a group of people in a wild sexual free-for-all. Like most fantasies, this is available in the BDSM world. If O/one is willing to let go of social conditioning, the world is at Y/your doorstep. The situation of settling is available to A/all who seek it.

For me, I have found this lifestyle to be a freeing experience. While that would seem contradictary, it is not. The BDSM lifestyle tends to go against the social norms. This is what sets it free as opposed to conforming. The orgy is a prime example of this rejecting of what society promotes.

Monogamy is the tool used by society. The marriage is the institution by which a society survives. It is within this framework that the family unit is formed. This is the foundation for it. The concept of free sex with multiple partners is discouraged. Those who engage in the practice are looked down upon. Society has a variety of terms used to describe these people-and none of them are endearing.

The BDSM environment is made up of a variety of people. There are plenty of facets for O/one to explore. Not all involved in this way of life are swingers or into group sex. Many are into monogomous relationships with a “leather” twist. However, there are many who are also open to the wild side of the lifestyle. It is a matter of availing Y/yourself to the deisres within and getting with those who want to share similar experiences.

When engaging in a BDSM orgy, it is important that there be a level of trust among all participants, Unlike regular orgies, it is best if strangers not be invovled. Safety, as always, is a primary concern. The subs are in a vulnerable position, especially if the setting is a dungeon scene complete with all the furniture. While they are open to being used sexually by many and be worked on by the same people, few will want to deal with an inexperienced person. Repecting limits is difficult when an overzealous person is invovled.

Entertaining our sexual side is one of the benefits of the BDSM experinece. This way of life allows O/ones mind to drift into a realm which previously was considered only fantasy. However, in this lifestyle, the fantasies have a way of becoming reality. It is all available if Y/you seek it.

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