As I have said so many times, there are many things that add together to make up the BDSM lifestyle and what it means to you as a person, that also goes for those who engage in it a step further, in the D/s and M/s relationships.
There are many types of these relationships, myself personally I am a poly Master, that is I own a couple of slaves, their service to me is I wish it to be, it might be as a house slave or as a sex slave or it might be a mix of the two, the point is, it is what I want and they know I am poly when submitting to me.
I have the options open to me to share my slaves if I wish to, be it with others in this life or having them play together to please me, although it does help if the slaves are bi sexual and get on with each other if I want them to play together but again that is something I decide upon in the end.
When a poly Master lets others play with those He owns it is not the slaves choice, however most Masters will lay down a few guide lines before the scene and be present through out to ensure that the slave is ok and not in distress, again whether he actually joins in is up to him, many times I prefer to watch at first so I can be alert to what is happening especially if she is new or these are people I know but have never had join us before I then have my slave please me afterwards and I have found that they are usually more than happy as this then brings them back to familiar ground and helps them to realise I am pleased with them and what has happened during the scene
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Hello.
I have a question. I am new to this lifestyle and learning. (I am going to get your book, An Owned Life too.) But I want to know, is it acceptable for a person who eventually wants to become a slave to want a monogamous relationship with her Master? I am conflicted with the idea that while she is to give over all control to her Master, she still desires the monogamous relationship only. Or is it just a matter of developing that relationship with a Master who desires the same?
Thank you for your time and teaching.
Sunfire
I would say that is your starting point. Looking for a Master who seeks monogamy is a good approach. I will warn though in a true Master/slave relationship where the exchange of power resides exclusively with the Master, he (or she) could change the terms. However, you could make that a condition of the relationship. Some will argue that it isnt a true M/s then, but so be it. If you are happy with it, that is what matters.