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The Internet has allowed many to be exposed to the M/s lifestyle.  Years ago, those of us involved found it almost by mistake.  Personally, I first encountered this way of life by dating someone who had been a slave in the past.  She was the one who initially trained me as to how this way of life worked.  This was before the World Wide Web was so prevelant.  Today, many find it thought website geared towards alternative lifestyle.  Any search will yield sites and forums dedicated to this.

With the added popularity, we also see the amount of people being taken advantage of increasing.  As we all know, the Internet allows one to assume a certain online persona which may or may not be accurate.  There are untold stories of people pretending to be something they are not.  These situations mostly end with little harm done.  However, there is the occasional tragedy which captures the national attention.  To avoid having this happen, here are a few suggestions which might help.  I am gearing this towards a slave looking for a Master since they seem to be the most vulneralbe to abuse.

It is best to learn all you can about a person before submitting.  The tendency is to strive for ownership as quickly as possible.  This desire has led many to submit to One who was not worthy nor experienced in the lifestyle.  The online community has made it easy for the pretenders to come in and abuse women.  They create a persona which enlists the trust on a non-knowing one.  Obviously, this will lead to hurt on the part of the slave.

People who regularly view this know how I am a proponent of experience.  What is the experience level of the person you are dealing with?  Ask this question in a straight forward manner.  It is your right to know.  A true Master will openly share His experience.  He will speak from that place, relating the positive and negative aspects of His relationships.

Of course, it is possible for One to mislead you online with His answers.  Another way to get a bearing on the knowledge level of the person you are dealing with is to look at His writings.  Most sites have forums/blogs which allow for members to share their thoughts.  Is the One that you are dealing with posting on there?  Those of us who have experience realize how important it is to get the information out to new people.  For this reason, we tend to share this knowledge with others.

When looking at the posts of an individual, what is the quality of the information.  One who constantly cuts and pastes information from other areas is not showing any experience.  Anyone can do this.  Does He mention the results He received relating to specific topics discussed.  We all have had our share of negative experiences.  Does He share the train wrecks in addition to the successes?  All one-sided is someone to be leery of.

Another suggestion that is helpful is to move into some type of “real” communication in a timely manner.  People in real relationships talk on the phone, share pictures, send emails, or exchange gifts.  The online world is removed from these necessities.  While some might not give out personal information for a while, it is best to start progressing in that direction.  If you are dealing with a true Master, getting a personal email is not out of the question.  Also, I like to converse on the phone with my long distant relationships.  It is a more personal form of communication.

Pictures also assist in helping one to know how real Another is.  Anyone can clip photos of the Web.  Ask fro pictures with family members doing those activities which normal people do.  Many of the digital cameras today will put the time and date on the pics.  This helps to ensure you are not looking at something that is 15 years old.  Again, if I am looking for someone to submit to me, A request for a photo is not unrealistic.

Finally, be wary of those “Masters” who continually are trying to chase you down.  This is a standard move for the pretenders.  They feel the need to initiate the contact.  To them, they believe there are a ton of Masters for them to content with.  In reality, the number of slaves outnumber the masters by a large margin.  The pretenders try to make quick “hits” by finding the “low lying fruit”.  New people are extremely vulnerable to these practices.  So be wary of One who is initiating all the contact.

Hopefully these will help you to distinguish from some of the games people play online.  There are many wonderful people who strike up friendships/relationships in the arena.  However, caution and some smarts are required to protect oneself.  Utilize all the skills you can to decipher what is going on.

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