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As I have said so many times, there are many things that add together to make up the BDSM lifestyle and what it means to you as a person, that also goes for those who engage in it a step further, in the D/s and M/s relationships.

There are many types of these relationships, myself personally I am a poly Master, that is I own a couple of slaves, their service to me is I wish it to be, it might be as a house slave or as a sex slave or it might be a mix of the two, the point is, it is what I want and they know I am poly when submitting to me.
I have the options open to me to share my slaves if I wish to, be it with others in this life or having them play together to please me, although it does help if the slaves are bi sexual and get on with each other if I want them to play together but again that is something I decide upon in the end.

When a poly Master lets others play with those He owns it is not the slaves choice, however most Masters will lay down a few guide lines before the scene and be present through out to ensure that the slave is ok and not in distress, again whether he actually joins in is up to him, many times I prefer to watch at first so I can be alert to what is happening especially if she is new or these are people I know but have never had join us before I then have my slave please me afterwards and I have found that they are usually more than happy as this then brings them back to familiar ground and helps them to realise I am pleased with them and what has happened during the scene

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The BDSM lifesyle is not boring. It takes one’s sexual life to another level. The freedom that is associated with this way of life is inexplainable. Many of us have seen our wildest fantasies come true. My entry into this amounts to living two different lives: my days before bdsm and my days since getting involved. Both are radically different from each other.

I like to tell people that this lifestyle allows one to be provocative. By having this mindset, one will tranform into the image carried in her mind. All that one desired to be is what one can be. The limitations are literally removed in this arena. However, the limits of the social conditioning in the mind still exist. That is something that one should overcome to enjoy the total experience this can offer.

One of my favorite celebrities in the last 25 years is Madonna. Leaving her music aside, I always admired her sense of self. She did what she desired regardless of what others called her. She behaved like a slut because that is what she wanted to do. The extent of her exploits might be magnified by the press, but it is fair to say she didnt seek their approval before she acted. Whatever society said was “proper” did not register with her. Also, I believe she is one of the most provocative figures in the last quarter century. Madonna oozes sexuality.

BDSM gives you the freedom to be as sexually diverse as you desire. So my suggestion is to be provocative. Carry yourself as a sex object. Let sexuality ooze from you like it does Madonna. Accept that you can be like this while fulfilling your inner desire. It will be a life changing experience.

Madonna lived according to her own rules. Create your life in a manner which allows you to do the same thing. This is your right. Of course, there are areas where we need to adhere like at work, etc… However, sex is the one area which we all have the freedom to design something that suits us. So if you want to be a slut, go for it. Does leather interest you? Then go shopping for a new wardrobe. Thinking about entering a bisexual relationship? Go for it and have fun. Do you have that burning desire to serve? Find yourself a Dom to fsatisfy that itch. This is all that is for you. It is your life. Live it as such.

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The life as a sub can be exciting and fulfilling However, one needs to determine how far she is willing to go. How far are you willing to enter the lifestyle? This will vary for each individual. Some opt to go to the point of becoming a 24/7 slave. It is at this extreme where there is a total exchange of power. The slave retains no rights nor control over her life.

Is being a slave something that you desire? If that is the case, it is wonderful. Yet you must be forewarned that willing to do anything means ANYTHING. Are you will to allow yourself to be gangbanged at the whim of your Master? I know one who was taken by 10-12 of her Master’s friends when she misbehaved. Is this something that you are comfortable with? Are you willing to be with a member of the same sex? Many Masters (and Mistresses) like to see their slaves engage in sex homosexual activities. I like all my slaves to be bisexual. I want them to eat other slaves out when the desire hits me.

When you give up full control, an important aspect is to be with One who is safe. That is why it is best to avoid all the pretenders out there. They only are looking to abuse; they have no conccept of training or improving a sub. The common activity is to degrade a sub/slave. When one chooses this lifestyle, she is opting to following a desire deep within her. There is nothing shameful or humiliating about that. A sub/slave can hold her head up high. This choice is one to be proud of.

Are you willing to have someone take control of your sex life? The One you are with might have you do all kinds of deviant sexual things. This is something to consider before entering this way of life. Of course, a large part of the equation is the trust you have for the person you choose. If He is experienced and knows what His own desires are, you can take comfort in His ability to lead you. This is a point I cannot stress enough. Sex might be wonderful with someone who is new. However, think through the level to which you are willing to submit to. It might be safer to draw a few boudaries with a new Dom.

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There are many who consider the BDSM lifestyle to be sexually deviant. This is done by those who consider themselves to be sexually “normal”. Of course, the age-old saying “what is normal” comes to mind. The bottom line is what is normal for one is not normal for another. Those who engage in this lifestyle do so because it fits what they like. Anything that occurs between consenting adults is no one else’s business.

Perhaps Y/you are locked into the midset of what is normal sexually. For many, at first, the BDSM way of life seems a bit extreme. Yet, when O/one realizes that there are many different facets to this way of life, it seems that a lot of it is not so far out of wack. Take spanking for example. This is a deviant sexual activity to a few. These are the minority who believe that sex should be a certain way. However, research shows that more than 80% engage in some type of spanking during sex. Thus, not spanking is actually the deviant behavior.

There are those who like to term us perverts. Again, this is from someone who is interested in controlling through their judgements. The fact that I am a multiple slave owner does not make me a pervert; it makes Me One who is following my natural inclination. This is also true for the one who craves being tied up and used by her Dom/Master. It is a natural expression of her submissiveness which comes deep from within. There is nothing perverted about this.

Here is a clue: sex is designed to be fun and enjoyable. How O/one gets to that point is up to them. For some, the extreme side of the BDSM lifestyle is what T/they like. At the same time, many like to drift towards the lighter side. Neither of these groups is deviant sexually. They are people who enjoy the different aspects of this life.

So what is it that Y/you are looking for? Are you someone who craves more sexually. Perhaps it is time to look at what this lifestyle offers. Not everyone who is invovled with it is “leather”. Nor do all participate in orgies, groups, or dungeon scenes. If that is what you want, it is here for Y/you. However, if milder suits the desires within Y/you, that is available also. Either way, put those old prejudices to rest so that sexual life can be enjoyed

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The scene is at the center of many BDSM relationships. This is true when the interraction between the two parties is limited to the sexual arena. The M/s relationshp or the involved BDSM relationship take on a different level of meaning. Safety is the most critical component of the scene. Before entering into it, one should be certain that there is a safe work in place. To overlook this vital step can cause great harm.

Regardless of how it is looked at, sex is a critical component of the BDSM world. The type of sex O/one likes is varied. Some are into the leather scene with whips and floggers being standard. Dungeon scenes are popular with many. Many subs loved to be tied up; it only enhances the feeling of submissiveness. To be totally vulnerable is what they seek.

Experienced Doms or Masters know where the limits are. If one is new to the lifestyle, it is best to be worked on by Someone who is knowledgable about pain. I have found that some enjoy the sensations of being beaten while others can handle very little. It is an individual thing that needs to be dealt with accordingly. For One to treat all the same also can have negative impacts.

Does this mean that all involved in this lifestyle are horny individuals with no self control? Of course not. However, the typical person in this way of life does enjoy sex a great deal. W/we tend to have high sex drives which the traditional relationship failed to deliver. Many of U/us love group sex because the variety adds additional stimulation. Alternative aspects of the sexually lifestyle including leather, bisexuality, bondage, etc… all factor into the pleasure people receive. Finally, many enjoy the poly characteristic of their relationships by having more than one sub/slave.

Therefore, as you can see, W/we are a varied people sexually. The BDSM world have many different looks to it. It is something that many practice even if then do not recognize it as such. For example, spanking during sex, done by the majority, is a form of light BDSM. Add a spatula or a paddle to the mix and O/on just entered a little deeper. But again, regardless of what aspect is appealing to Y/you. remember safety is at the top of the list.

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