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The dundgeon scene is one of the mainstays in the BDSM world. It is a sexual fantasy of many to be taken in an environment such as this. There are many products on the market which contour to this particular fetish. Many have set up dundgeon scenes in their homes to further the sexual excitement with their subs/slaves.

Who would not be turned on by the sheer animal magnetism of this concept? It is something that we see in movies. The barbarians enter a town and imprison all the townfolk. Their behavior is abysmal with the taking of all they want. Women are raped at will by these horrific beings. W/we have seen it many times in different films over the years.

The fantasy of powerless is really in play her. For a sub to have her body available to be taken in any manner promotes great excitement within her. This is an extension of the normal bondage activities W/we regularly see. Being tied to a bedpost has a certain flair to it. Yet it does not compare to being tied to a piece of aparatus in a cold, dreary room. This is where one is taken back to the ancient times. Comfort is not something that is high on the priority list.

This is a fantasy that is a bit extreme for many. However, it is fairly common among people in this lifestyle. It illustrates how O/one is only limited by the imagination. The BDSM way of life allows for great sexual pleasure in many different ways. It is why so many of us love it.

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I wrote earlier about erotic humiliation and it seems the response was overwhelming. Many of you indicated a desire to know some more about it. If you havent done so, I suggest you read the post titled “Erotic Humiliation

This differs greatly from humiliation. It is much different than calling some ugly, or stupid, or a loser. These terms are usually done in a way to put the other down. When repeated over a long enough period of time, the person starts to internalize these concepts. The main intention is to degrade the other person to make oneself feel better.

Erotic humiliation differs in that it is designed to stimulate. The goal is to increase the pleasure of both participants. Obviously, this is done within the sexual arena even though it can transcend the bounds of sex. Often, the humiliation will be done in front of others yet the result is the same: the turning on of both partners.

This is not something that is for everyone. New people seem to think that this is a degrading of them. It is not. This is typically something that occurs between two who are committed in some way to a D/s relationship; even if it is just for a scene. The Dom gets off on the “degrading” of the sub; she gets off on the further stimulation of her submissive side. It is a win/win for both. If it is not, this is something that should be avoided until there is the proper amount of communication.

How does one humiliate another in this fashion. Some of the commonly used ways are using typically thought as degrading terms. Are you a slut? Whore? Fuckpiece? This is how a Dom can refer to you as. This is further enhanced when done in front of others. Perhaps you are dressed in revealing clothes and made to go out in public. Or it could be that you wear none at all. He might make you do things you commonly wouldnt do in front of others such as pee or masturbate. Treating a sub as a small child is another way to add humiliation to the relationship. The possibilities are endless.

Naturally, this is best done with one who has a healthy esteem. It is all part of the lifestyle that one chooses. Since this is consensual in nature (nobody can be forced into a D/s or M/s relationship-there are laws which outlaw that),it is best to communicate what the common ground is. This is not for everyone. However, for those who are open to it, this can enhance the sexual experience. Many get so turned on by this that they go at as soon as they get through the door. It can be that stimulating. And the orgasm that one has is intense. Experiment with this to see how turned on you can become.

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There are many who consider the BDSM lifestyle to be sexually deviant. This is done by those who consider themselves to be sexually “normal”. Of course, the age-old saying “what is normal” comes to mind. The bottom line is what is normal for one is not normal for another. Those who engage in this lifestyle do so because it fits what they like. Anything that occurs between consenting adults is no one else’s business.

Perhaps Y/you are locked into the midset of what is normal sexually. For many, at first, the BDSM way of life seems a bit extreme. Yet, when O/one realizes that there are many different facets to this way of life, it seems that a lot of it is not so far out of wack. Take spanking for example. This is a deviant sexual activity to a few. These are the minority who believe that sex should be a certain way. However, research shows that more than 80% engage in some type of spanking during sex. Thus, not spanking is actually the deviant behavior.

There are those who like to term us perverts. Again, this is from someone who is interested in controlling through their judgements. The fact that I am a multiple slave owner does not make me a pervert; it makes Me One who is following my natural inclination. This is also true for the one who craves being tied up and used by her Dom/Master. It is a natural expression of her submissiveness which comes deep from within. There is nothing perverted about this.

Here is a clue: sex is designed to be fun and enjoyable. How O/one gets to that point is up to them. For some, the extreme side of the BDSM lifestyle is what T/they like. At the same time, many like to drift towards the lighter side. Neither of these groups is deviant sexually. They are people who enjoy the different aspects of this life.

So what is it that Y/you are looking for? Are you someone who craves more sexually. Perhaps it is time to look at what this lifestyle offers. Not everyone who is invovled with it is “leather”. Nor do all participate in orgies, groups, or dungeon scenes. If that is what you want, it is here for Y/you. However, if milder suits the desires within Y/you, that is available also. Either way, put those old prejudices to rest so that sexual life can be enjoyed

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Section 1. Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.

Section 2. Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.

I am certain there are similar laws in other countries around the world. Basically, this legislature states that slave or involuntary servitude is outlawed. Of course, voluntary servitude is what is acceptable. And that is what the M/s relationship is all about. It is a voluntary exchange of power from a slave to her Master. The basis of the M/s lifestyle is voluntary.

This comes into effect not only in the submission but also in the ending. It is illegal to hold an individual involuntarily. One cannot force one to serve Him and still be in compliance with the law. A Master must release a slave if it is what she truly desires. Any act preventing that is considered unaceptable. A slave consents to the relationship.

This is something to remember throughout the interaction with Your slave. I have seen to often where people try to control through force and fear. This results in an eventual rejecting of the Master. As a result, He tries harder to control her while keeping her under His power. This is not how a Master is to operate. A true Master will have control of His slave psychologically. As a result, if she is handled properly, she will crave her Master more. The exact opposite happens. A slave in this situation keeps volunteering her servitude to her Master.

It is worthy to remember this basic fact of reality. Some seem to get disconnected while allowing their egos to push them further into delusion. There is a saying about power going to one’s head. An inexperienced Master is susceptible to falling prey to this. This is the point that the situation turns to one of abuse. Try to be mindful of what O/our responsibilities are and what this lifestyle is all about.

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