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I am a great fan of tied tits, in fact anything to do with playing with tits gets my approval * provided it is something enjoyable to both of us*. I have heard many times that someone cannot tie or bind their sub/slaves tits because they are too small, well with a bit of imagination and adaptation I am sure there will be a way you can that will be pleasurable to you both.

I love to place clothes pegs/clamps/mousetraps/chains and various other implements onto my slaves tits, the look on her face at the first ‘bite’ tells me she loves it as well, in fact she is the one who usually ends up begging me for more, add to the play time a crop or switch and starting gently tap the nipples and you will end up with a slave writhing as much as she can wanting more.

A word of warning though – the nipples are sensative, full of nerves so when tying them take care to not leave the ropes/clips/pegs etc on for too long as you could cause damage, and this is something we want to aviod !

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As readers of this blog know I love to experiment and play around with different aspects of BDSM, indeed with out experimentation and ‘trial and error’ how is one to know what is enjoyable to them and their subs/slaves ?

One of the things that has come as no surprise to me is the pleasure that my slave gets from waxing – this was something she was uncertain of previously as she had had a bad experience at the hands of an untrained Master and so it was something that while she knew I enjoyed doing she was understandably reluctant to actually have it done to her. It took time slowly build up the trust needed but when that trust was there 100% and she allowed herself to move past the memories she has now found it is something that awards us both a great deal of pleasure. I am a great believer in safety and being aware of the mindset of your sub or slave – use your eyes and your knowledge of those you own to keep them safe.

I have put together a few basic points to try to ensure the fun is had by all

Candle wax for BDSM play should not cause burns. There can be a reddening of the skin but this should clear up in a few hours at the most.

⃙ Avoid beeswax candles as Beeswax burns at a much higher temperature than plain paraffin candles and can cause burns.
⃙Avoid beef tallow candles. Wax made from animal fat can be extremely hot and cause burning.
⃙ Avoid candles with metallic colours, these often contain poisonous metallic salts.
⃙ Avoid scented candles. Scented candles burn at a higher temperature because of their perfume content and may cause scalding.
⃙ Avoid candles with metal wicks, metal wick can drip hot molten metal on the sub/slave
Have a bucket of water or fire extinguisher close by, a candle can be knocked over very easily especially if the sub/slave is ‘writhing’ around, a tied sub/slave and a bed on fire is not a good combination.

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There are many ways that a Master/Dom can use Humiliation in his BDSM playtimes – he can dictate what a slave/sub is to wear in public, a slutty outfit that flashes her tits and pussy, or he could make her walk around naked amongst his friends when he is entertaining, open to all their comments and touches. This is just a couple of ways but I personnally like to ‘write’ on my slaves, a marker pen telling them that they are mine, it need not be visable to anyone else but the thought of her wearing my ‘brand’ while she is in a board meeting or even doing the shopping is something we both love.

The words that you write on your slave/sub can be anything, but I have found that the best ones are the ones that actually mean something to you – for example if your slave likes anal sex then writing ‘ Fuck this ‘ on her ass is a turn on for both of you, especially if she is wearing a short skirt and when she bends over it can be visable, the same as with ‘ Spank me ‘ written on her ass or ‘Cum Slut’ across her pussy.

Experiment with writting on your slave/sub, I am sure you will find it is a great way to humiliate her yet at the same time prove to be a turn on for you both * might be wise not to write on her face unless you are certain that soap and water will remove it properly, it could result in a few days off work otherwise until the writting fades *

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Erotic humiliation is a wonderful technique for those who have the ability to handle such a practice. Be forewarned, those with some past issues might have difficulty with this concept. However, for the majority, erotic humiliation is a method for stressing the power difference in a relationship.

Physical humiliation is the act of increasing eroticism by physically embarrassing a sub. Under this technique, the idea is to make him/her do things he or she normally would not do. One such idea is to have that person wear extremely revealing clothing. Another is to have him or her leave the door open while changing in a public dressing room. Example such as these all enhance the D/s interaction.

In my newest publication, Erotic Humiliation I detail the different aspects of physical humiliation. We can further enhance the experience by implementing verbal humiliation. The idea is to re-emphasize a sub’s place and the power that is wielded over him or her. For those who can handle it, some like to get pretty extreme with this concept.

As always, I stress safety first. However, this is one of the most enjoyable techniques that I know. It can be something that is put in just for a scene or it can be the basis for a relationship. Those involved in M/s find this to be a must for their interaction.

Try this technique out the next time you want to improve your BDSM play. I can promise that you love it.

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Having touched briefly on wax play, I have decided to revisit this particular activity in the hope to clear up some misconceptions that judging by the emails I have received some people seem to have.
Wax play is NOT about hurting your sub or slave and it is NOT about covering her or his entire body in wax, and it most defiantly is NOT about trying to burn them, it is about erotic foreplay, it is another dimension added to enhance the submission and trust between the Master or Dom and those He/She owns.
When done right, the dripping of wax on a persons body should not actually ‘burn’ them, it will heighten the sense of her body, it will bring attention to that particular area of her body, her skin will feel warm/hot and her mind will focus on the pleasure she is feeling, cooling that area with an ice cube either before or after then the feelings will intensify.
There are many articles describing wax play and its benefits and also the things to watch out for, if you are new to this type of play then I suggest starting on the hand or feet, these areas tend to be ‘tougher’ and therefore less likely to be burnt but at the same time they will allow practice so that you both are comfortable to move forward to another part of the body. The face is an area to avoid until you are both well practiced.
As with all things associated with BDSM and its different forms of play, take care to watch your sub/slave so you know instantly if she is experiencing any discomfort and react accordingly so this is a pleasurable experience for you both, and most of all have fun

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Many encounter the poly aspect of the BDSM only to find their surprise at the emotions which arise.  As we wrote in other posts, jealousy is something that is best checked at the door.  It matters little whether we are referring to a scene or to a long term relationship, the impact is still the same.  Jealousy will destroy one if not both relationships.

There are a fair number of Doms/Masters who are involved with numerous people.  This is a fact of the lifestyle that one needs to accept if she is to be happy.  Failure to do so will result in her misery.  When people first hear “poly” they immediately go to the sexual aspect.  This is certainly a factor where this emotion needs to be dealt with.  However, many encounter issues at greater depths.  It is these issues which also crop up to hinder a relationship.

When One is involved with more than one person, His time is split as He sees fit.  There is certainly the concept that He will be sexually involved with others.  This is one of the areas where things are different than the non-poly situation.  He also will divide His time among each in a way that best suits Him.  How He decides to do this is not for a sub/slave to determine.  Many fail to grasp the full meaning of this concept.  If He chooses to have you sit at home while waiting for Him alone, then that is how it is to be.

The natural tendency is for one to want more.  Unfortunately, it is not her place to insist upon this.  Many will try to “Dom from the bottom” by acting like a spoiled brat.  This will also have negative results with most Doms/Masters.  They simply will not stand for it.  If one cannot accept the terms of the lifestyle, it is best if she seek out something else.  Perhaps a traditional model is a better fit for you.

Many will try to alleviate this entire situation by getting with One who is not poly.  That might work in the short term.  However, He always has the right to take on more in the future if He so chooses.  Again, this is a reality of the lifestyle.  Many cannot handle this type of situation.  The jealousy bug is something that is too great to overcome.  Sadly, I saw many who had to depart this way of life because of this single issue.

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Polygomy is a part of the BDSM community. Many need to be aware of this when looking into this way of life. I have encountered too many people who seem to thing that BDSM operates under the same premise as the traditional lifestyle. There, monagamy is the central characteristic in the relationship. It is one man and one woman (or two of a particular sex if it is a same sex situation). This characteristics can change in the BDSM world.

I must state that not all polygomists are into BDSM and, certainly, not all involved in BDSM are polygamists. Polygomy is a lifestlye choice that is separate from BDSM. It just so happens that many invovled in this way of life also choose the polygomy way also.

Many dominants prefer to have multiple submissives. This is especially true when one gets into the realm of M/s. It is not uncommon to find a Master have multiple slaves. Typically, they each will serve Him in a different manner. Some are brought in more for pleasure while others can tend to domestic affairs. I personally had slaves which assisted in my business matters. Each one was performed a different role for me.

Each slave is different. She is her own person with different wants and talents. A Master is mismanaging His resources if He fails to utilize her to the fullest of her abilities. Also, I found each slave likes different things. Obviously, some really enjoy pain while others abhor it. Having multiple slaves allows a Master to full His needs while not abusing one who really is not cut out for something. I feel it is better to engage in a particular fetish, as an example, with one who garners enjoyment out of the same activity. While it is within my right to push one, it could have negative consequences. This is a prime example of where multiple slaves compliment each other.

The key to succeeding in a poly relationship is to not compare yourself with another. This is something that extends past the BDSM and into the poly world. It is best to focus on whether you are getting what you need out of the interaction with your Master. The treatment others receive is of no concern of yours. This is something that is in direct contrast to the teaching of society. However, in the poly world, it is one of the main suggestions for success.

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