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This is a subject I have discussed in the past yet felt compelled to revisit it.  Recent interaction with new people leads me to write about this again.  It seems to be an area of tremendous confusion with both Masters and slaves.  Clarification is needed to prevent senseless abuse.

Many believe that if a slave fails to complete a particular task, that a punishment is warranted.  My belief is that this is not necessarily true.  It is best to uncover why the activity wasnt completed as desired.  To start, is it something that the slave could accomplish?  Does she has the ability to do what is asked of her?  Secondly, what was the reason for the failure?  Was she being disobedient or was it because of a mistake on her part?  This last point is crucial.  Determining her motivation is what determines the needs for punishment or not.

Punishment is warranted in any situation where a slave is disobedient.  If she is given a task and decides not to do it, all bets are off.  She deserves whatever punishment her Master sees fit.  Her main objective is obedience.  Failure to do so is grounds for an “attitude adjustment”.

Mistakes are a totally different story.  I have met slaves who are routinely disciplined every time they make a mistake.  Their Masters feel they are correcting a situation.  To me this is amateurish.  Any Master who punishes consistently for mistakes is an abuser.  He is not interested in the growth of the slave.  Rather, His motivation is the feeling derived from having the power to punish.  Typically, this is in the form of physical discipline.

There is not a person on the planet who lives error free.  Everyone messes up.  The advantage is that mistakes are often our best teachers.  That is what helps a slave tremendously.  Each time she makes a mistake, that is an opportunity to learn.  Utilize these moments for education rather then discipline.  Of course, if the same mistake is made repeatedly, that might be a sign that it is time to “get her attention”.  Failure to learn a lesson shows a lack of focus.

Be sure to distinguish between a mistake and a slave being disobedient.  A slave’s growth can be stunted if a Master misses this crucial distinction.

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Punishments are a part of the Master/slave relationship. One of the important qualities that a Master seeks to instill in His slave is discipline. Part of this is punishment. However, punishments are consequences for actions taken (or not taken). They are administered in a judicious manner. Anyone who quickly goes into punishment mode is someone that one should question.

The foundation of the a slave’s servitude is obedience. She is to obey that which her Master sets out for her. He is the One who leads the relationship. Disobedience is the most valid reason for punishment. Anytime a slave willing disobeys her Master, she is choosing the path to punishment. This is how responsible Masters handle the situation.

Fakes take a different approach. To begin with, they use physical punishment as the only form of punishment. Again, those of us who are in the lifestyle know this can be an effective method. Anyone who has dealt with a slave who loves pain knows the futility in this. Therefore, we use other means to punish as opposed to beatings. Withholding serves as a better method for altering behavior.

When one finds herself repeatedly punished might want to question the validity of the person she is dealing with. There is something that Masters have learned; slaves are human. They will make mistakes. This is a fact of ownership and any Master who expects mistakes to be eliminated is not being realistic. Anyone who continually punishes for the most minor of mistakes is someone who belongs in another lifestyle.

Disobedience is grounds for punishment. An honest mistake on the part of a slave is not an indication that she is disobedient. True Masters will help a slave understand where she went wrong so that she can do better in the future. Also, He will look at the choice He made to determine if He needs to make some changes. Perhaps He assigned a task to the slave which was beyond her capability. Failure to complete it is not the slave’s fault in this situation but the Masters. Of course, repeatedly making the same mistake shows a failure to learn on the slave’s behalf which usually will entail some form of punishment.

So be leery of someone who is continually punishing. Anyone who uses this as the primary tool for modeling behavior is not real. They are just an abuser operating under the guise of a Master. This is a person one will want to avoid at all costs.

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The popular answer would be sex, sex, and more sex. This would be offered by some of those pretenders who seem to stroll into our gathering places looking for a quickie hookup. Obviously, there is a lot more to this lifestyle than that. Anyone who seeks to be an effective Master will need to ensure His slave is being fulfilled in all three areas. Slaves want direction, discipline, and service.

A Master needs to provide direction for a slave’s life. This is different than giving directions. Any fool can bark out orders. That is not leadership. Providing direction entails creating a series of goals for a slave to work for. Through the achievement of these milestones she will grow to be able to handle more responsibility. The Master lays out a path for her to follow which will result in an increased sense of purpose.

Discipline is another area that one initially misunderstands. This is a far greater topic than just punishments. They are a tool utilized to mold behavior. Discipline is the inner ability to do things in a timely manner and in the fashion set out. A Master needs to teach His slave to be disciplined in all aspects of her life. She will learn things such as attention to detail, effective planning, commitment to results, and self sufficiency. A well trained slave operates at a high level in terms of the tasks she handles without continual input from her Master. She has the discipline to get things done on her own. This is what increases her value.

The final area that a slave needs to be fulfilled is in service. This is an inbred desire of slaves. It is my observation why they get into this lifestyle. A Master needs to allow His slaves to serve Him. This seems pretty obvious. Again, what separates effective Masters from the pretenders is the level of service a slave provides. Continually having a slave handle menial tasks is not effective. An effective Master needs to look at the skills and abilities of His slave to see where she is most productive. Also, over time, a Master needs to enhance those skills so that His slave will expand her capabilities. Cleaning the bathroom will have a degree of satisfaction. However, imagine how good Your slave would feel if she was able to handle Your entire schedule. In this instance, her level of service is at a higher level.

So pay attention to the progress of Your slave. Ensure that her abilities are being used to the maximum. An effective Master will continually push His slave to grow. This is one of the major factors which will provide long term success in the M/s relationship.

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Emotional mastery is one of the vital components that every good Master has. It is impossible to control another if one cannot control oneself. Most of the world’s philosophies have taught this concept for centuries. A slave needs the guidance of a Master yet this is hindered if that person is unstable.

A slave craves consistency which can only come from a stable Master. The world is full of people who respond inconsistently based upon their emotional state in the moment. This is not an effective way for a Master to train a slave. Having consist responses to behaviors allows a slave to trust. Inconsistency destroys this trust.

Many people come from backgrounds that were full of inconsistent behavior. The entering into the Master/slave relationship is done with the intention of getting what was missing in our other relationships. One who is accustomed to dealing with undisciplined people will crave that in a Master. Receiving responses that correspond with the parameters of conduct established allow a slave to grow exponentially.

Learn how to master your emotions. It is beneficial to expect mistakes on the part of a slave and to not react to them. Discipline should never be administered in anger. That is abuse. Punishments should be meted out in proportion to the offense. Controlling of one’s emotions is the foundation by which a good Master operates.

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