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Polygomy is a part of the BDSM community. Many need to be aware of this when looking into this way of life. I have encountered too many people who seem to thing that BDSM operates under the same premise as the traditional lifestyle. There, monagamy is the central characteristic in the relationship. It is one man and one woman (or two of a particular sex if it is a same sex situation). This characteristics can change in the BDSM world.

I must state that not all polygomists are into BDSM and, certainly, not all involved in BDSM are polygamists. Polygomy is a lifestlye choice that is separate from BDSM. It just so happens that many invovled in this way of life also choose the polygomy way also.

Many dominants prefer to have multiple submissives. This is especially true when one gets into the realm of M/s. It is not uncommon to find a Master have multiple slaves. Typically, they each will serve Him in a different manner. Some are brought in more for pleasure while others can tend to domestic affairs. I personally had slaves which assisted in my business matters. Each one was performed a different role for me.

Each slave is different. She is her own person with different wants and talents. A Master is mismanaging His resources if He fails to utilize her to the fullest of her abilities. Also, I found each slave likes different things. Obviously, some really enjoy pain while others abhor it. Having multiple slaves allows a Master to full His needs while not abusing one who really is not cut out for something. I feel it is better to engage in a particular fetish, as an example, with one who garners enjoyment out of the same activity. While it is within my right to push one, it could have negative consequences. This is a prime example of where multiple slaves compliment each other.

The key to succeeding in a poly relationship is to not compare yourself with another. This is something that extends past the BDSM and into the poly world. It is best to focus on whether you are getting what you need out of the interaction with your Master. The treatment others receive is of no concern of yours. This is something that is in direct contrast to the teaching of society. However, in the poly world, it is one of the main suggestions for success.

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1. Good chocolate is easy to find.

2. “If you love me you’ll swallow” has real meaning with chocolate.

3. Chocolate satisfies even when it has gone soft.

4. You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to last.

5. If you bite the nuts too hard, the chocolate won’t mind.

6. The word “commitment” doesn’t scare off chocolate.

7. When you have chocolate, it doesn’t keep your neighbors awake.

8. You don’t get hairs in your mouth with chocolate.

9. You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped.

10. With chocolate, size doesn’t matter; it’s always good.

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Society wants to label the behavior that we engage in as kinky or, worse, deviant. This is its’ way of putting those of us involved in it on a lower level. There is a perception that there is an appropriate way to behave sexually. Anything which strays from the norm is looked down upon. Thus, so are the people who are involved in that behavior.

The medical community seems to want to enhance this belief by focusing upon different fetishes which exist. They conclude that there is something wrong with us because we like things that are a bit more extreme than normal. Again, anything apart from the accepted ideals makes up oddballs.

Ironically, what we are involved in is the norm. The vanilla mindset of missionary position every other Thursday is far from reality. Most people like things spiced up a little more. Spankings, toys, and dirty talk are enjoyed by more couples then do not enjoy them. The only difference is some of us are more open about our likes than others.

Sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences known to mankind. It is something which should be enjoyed to the fullest. That said, who is capable of being the moral authority on the matter? There are many who want to sit on that throne; religious zealots, phsychologists, doctors, ministers, etc… It is important to remember that it is your life. Live it how you see fit.

For Me, I love this lifestyle. It offered something which I failed to find elsewhere. For this individual, the traditional lifestyle simply did not work. Does that make Me kinky because I choose a different method of living than what is perceived to be “normal”? Not in the manner which they are using the term. I am following a path which feels right within Me. That is the difference. I am choosing how I live. The ones judging are subscribing to a mindset that was given to them.

People who are into BDSM come from all walks of life. If people would only cease judging the lifestyle for a short period of time, they would realize that all that is offered here is the opportunity to design their lives (at least sexually) in a manner which is acceptable to them. Sexual freedom entails more than orgies, gangbangs, and bondage scenes. It is a state of mind that tells Me I can choose how I want to live. And, that does not make Me any less than anyone else.

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What are you in the mood for? This is one of the primary benefits of a sexually free lifestyle. You can do whatever you desire so long as it is legal. Many of us in the BDSM way of life know the benefits of fulfilling our sexual whims. Literally, what is a fantasy for others is a regular part of our life.

Being a Dom allows me to exert control and influence in a manner that I desire. Of course, the mutual payoff exists. It is exciting to see the pleasure one (or more) receives from pleasuring Me. A submissive craves being used in a manner which satisfies her Dom. Using one in this capacity stimulates the dominant streak to the max.

So, we get to decide what our pleasure is. Group sex is a consistent part of my reality. I do the things that other in my office only dream of. Is it Me? No, it is the result of choosing a lifestyle which partners Me with people who are equally as driven. Sexual freedom is something that few can imagine. When you do meet up with those who think the same way, the world is at your doorstep. All the societal morays are removed. Pleasure is what we seek.

BDSM is more than just whips and leather. It is a total way of life. Sexually, we are some of the most diverse people. We like everything from straight one-on-one to orgies to bondage to extreme. There is nothing that is left unimagined. If you can think of it, we probably tried it. Join this way of life to open yourself up to all that it has to offer.

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This is a common fantasy among many women, esepcially those in BDSM.  The idea of being taken and forced into sex is thrilling to many.  Please bear in mind this is a fantasy we are talking about.  People who have this do not necessarily want to experience it for real.  This is something that their mind engages in.

What is so sensational about this particular fantasy?  Part of it is the stimulation of the submissive side.  To be completely controlled is the desire of many.  Also, the fact that it often involves sex with a stranger is alluring.  Many crave having sex with someone they do not know.  Some choose to have more than one person involved, thus presenting the “gangbang” scenario.  Finally, many envisioned be tied up during the activities.  Being captive is a thrill that also excites the submissiveness of one.

Like all aspects of BDSM, we promote the consensual interaction between people.  However, the fantaises or role playing that individuals engage in is part of the excitement of this lifestyle.  The rape fantasy is just another outlet which people satisfy their deep cravings.  BDSM offers the freedom to engage in whatever desires one has.

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What is the appeal to so many of BDSM? Why do those who get invovled with this choose to do so?

Sex is the most basic of instincts. It is also one of the most powerful energies that exists in the universe. Consider what people did throughout the ages for sex. Man (in the mankind sense) has gone to great lengths to satisfy this craving. It is something that drives people to act completely irrationally.

The topic of sex is something that many have tried to stiffle. As a basic act, it is necessary to engage in for the survival of the race. Procreation includes sex as part of the process. However, many try to present an image that the enjoyment of sex is bad. That it is dirty and something to be ashamed of. Many in society tried to paint the subject as something taboo.

This is part of the allure of BDSM. Many like the idea of being on the side of something considered bad, no matter how irrational society’s outlook. Yet that is just a part of it. There are also those who choose to be responsible for their own experiences. They shed the ideals of others and take control of their own lives. This includes the sexual arena.

Sex is designed to be enjoyed. In fact, it is meant to be thoroughly enjoyed. It feels so good at many different levels. In addition, people have found there are an assortment of desires such as submission which can be fulfilled sexually. BDSM offers such as array of sexual techniques that many find satisfaction in ways they never experienced. Experimentation is a common element within this arena. Many try things they never dreamed possible. It is exciting to see how one’s sexual limits can be expanded.

Freedom is a big part of the BDSM lifestyle. Even those who are in monogamous relationships are free in their mindset. It is one which throws off the societal limitations that are prevalant within most cultures. People who engage in it seek to derive all the pleasure they can from the sexual experience. Fulfilling the needs of oneself and others is a high priority. Basically, people are free to be who they are. Submissives find a wonderful and satifying outlet while Doms can safely exercise that desire within themselves. It is an opportunity that few can find anywhere else.

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The biggest mistakes men are as follows:

1. Foreplay doesn’t start in the sack.

The timer for enticing does not start once you hit the sheets. Your pre-game show is best approached as an all-day affair.

Women love to be wooed. Sex is a head game and women want to know you can’t get them out of your mind. We love knowing that we are desired.

2. Don’t head south straight away.

Diving in for the genitals too soon usually isn’t the best idea. A woman needs to be properly aroused before any below-the-belt action feels good.

Be sure to focus on her entire body, head to toe, before going for the gold.

3. Remember the clitoris.

Many men think a woman’s orgasm results from penetration.

More than 70 per cent of women experience clitoral orgasm when it comes to maximum reaction, so men need to make sure they are not ignoring the clitoris.

It also helps if you actually know where the clitoris is, some men have been known to rub the urethral opening, which can be a big no-no for some ladies.

4. Get to that G spot.

In digging for buried treasure, many guys don’t know that ‘X’ doesn’t always mark the spot. Found on the front wall of the vagina, a woman’s G spot may be a little higher or lower, or more to one side than the other, than often depicted.

5. Don’t be too goal-oriented.

There is nothing more endearing than a man who wants to play. Just don’t get caught up in yourself. Your sexual exploration should be playtime for two.

Stay ‘present’ in the moment, connecting with your partner will bring the ultimate climax for both of you.

6. Thinking you’re still hot after gaining weight.

‘For better or worse’ should include weight fluctuations, but don’t let yourself go completely.

7. Let her be naughty.

Sometimes she needs to get in touch with her adulterated side. In fact, research has found that women are more aroused by explicit fantasies than romantic ones. It’s not always about the prince on a white horse or canoodling on the beach.

8. She’s not a porn star.

As seen in porn films, many men expect their lovers to fulfill their every fantasy. Remember that porn is fantasy, not reality. Expecting her to act like a porn star is simply not fair.

9. And men aren’t supposed to look like porn stars.

Despite what XXX-rated films indicate, most women are not lusting after a three-legged man. Maybe some women are up for the challenge, but many are fine with the guy who fits within the norm. Don’t be too hard on yourself for being just that.

10. One orgasm is not always enough.

Women are not as quick to come down from their aroused state as men are post-sex. Many can be launched right back to bliss, and many women do crave more action and orgasms, even if they were perfectly satisfied the first time round.

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