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Society wants to label the behavior that we engage in as kinky or, worse, deviant. This is its’ way of putting those of us involved in it on a lower level. There is a perception that there is an appropriate way to behave sexually. Anything which strays from the norm is looked down upon. Thus, so are the people who are involved in that behavior.

The medical community seems to want to enhance this belief by focusing upon different fetishes which exist. They conclude that there is something wrong with us because we like things that are a bit more extreme than normal. Again, anything apart from the accepted ideals makes up oddballs.

Ironically, what we are involved in is the norm. The vanilla mindset of missionary position every other Thursday is far from reality. Most people like things spiced up a little more. Spankings, toys, and dirty talk are enjoyed by more couples then do not enjoy them. The only difference is some of us are more open about our likes than others.

Sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences known to mankind. It is something which should be enjoyed to the fullest. That said, who is capable of being the moral authority on the matter? There are many who want to sit on that throne; religious zealots, phsychologists, doctors, ministers, etc… It is important to remember that it is your life. Live it how you see fit.

For Me, I love this lifestyle. It offered something which I failed to find elsewhere. For this individual, the traditional lifestyle simply did not work. Does that make Me kinky because I choose a different method of living than what is perceived to be “normal”? Not in the manner which they are using the term. I am following a path which feels right within Me. That is the difference. I am choosing how I live. The ones judging are subscribing to a mindset that was given to them.

People who are into BDSM come from all walks of life. If people would only cease judging the lifestyle for a short period of time, they would realize that all that is offered here is the opportunity to design their lives (at least sexually) in a manner which is acceptable to them. Sexual freedom entails more than orgies, gangbangs, and bondage scenes. It is a state of mind that tells Me I can choose how I want to live. And, that does not make Me any less than anyone else.

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1. The typical lovemaking session lasts around 15 minutes: roughly 10 to 12 minutes of foreplay and around 3 to 5 minutes of intercourse.

2. Humans aren’t the only horny members of the animal kingdom doing it just for fun. Dolphins and a type of chimpanzee called the bonobo have also been observed engaging in sexual activity when they are not in their natural reproductive cycles.

3. While Viagra has made erectile dysfunction (affecting 10 to 12 percent of men) a household phrase, the opposite problem — premature ejaculation — is more common (affecting 24 to 27 percent of men). The U.S. Food and Drug Administration is currently reviewing a drug called dapoxetine as a cure for this problem.

4. Crank up that thermostat… orgasms may be more intense in warmer conditions. The degree of vasocongestion, reddening or darkeing of the skin known as the “sex flush,” is both more common in warmer temperatures and an indication of how intense an orgasm may be.

5. If a woman experiences orgasm during sex, she is more likely to become pregnant, since orgasmic spasms in pelvic muscles help move sperm up the vaginal canal to the uterus.

6. Homosexuality is not unique to humans. Many species have been observed engaging in homosexual activity, and in fact male bats have the highest rate of homosexuality of all mammals.

7. On any given day 400,000,000 people around the world — 1 in 17 of us — will have sexual intercourse. Broken down further, 4,000 people are having sex at any given time.

8. Sex cures headaches. Endorphins released into our bloodstream when we have sex not only give us pleasure but also act as painkillers. Useful information to whip out the next time your partner uses a headache as a reason to say no.

9. Many elderly can and do have frequent sex. At age 70, 73% of males are still potent, and 30% of women 80 or older have still have sex.

10. 70% of women would rather eat choclate than have sex.

Sources: The Kinsey Report, Wikipedia, American Urology Association

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The scene is at the center of many BDSM relationships. This is true when the interraction between the two parties is limited to the sexual arena. The M/s relationshp or the involved BDSM relationship take on a different level of meaning. Safety is the most critical component of the scene. Before entering into it, one should be certain that there is a safe work in place. To overlook this vital step can cause great harm.

Regardless of how it is looked at, sex is a critical component of the BDSM world. The type of sex O/one likes is varied. Some are into the leather scene with whips and floggers being standard. Dungeon scenes are popular with many. Many subs loved to be tied up; it only enhances the feeling of submissiveness. To be totally vulnerable is what they seek.

Experienced Doms or Masters know where the limits are. If one is new to the lifestyle, it is best to be worked on by Someone who is knowledgable about pain. I have found that some enjoy the sensations of being beaten while others can handle very little. It is an individual thing that needs to be dealt with accordingly. For One to treat all the same also can have negative impacts.

Does this mean that all involved in this lifestyle are horny individuals with no self control? Of course not. However, the typical person in this way of life does enjoy sex a great deal. W/we tend to have high sex drives which the traditional relationship failed to deliver. Many of U/us love group sex because the variety adds additional stimulation. Alternative aspects of the sexually lifestyle including leather, bisexuality, bondage, etc… all factor into the pleasure people receive. Finally, many enjoy the poly characteristic of their relationships by having more than one sub/slave.

Therefore, as you can see, W/we are a varied people sexually. The BDSM world have many different looks to it. It is something that many practice even if then do not recognize it as such. For example, spanking during sex, done by the majority, is a form of light BDSM. Add a spatula or a paddle to the mix and O/on just entered a little deeper. But again, regardless of what aspect is appealing to Y/you. remember safety is at the top of the list.

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