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Many get in this lifestyle thinking this is the answer to all of life’s problems. Unfortunately, it is not. Life still happens. Masters need to be especially attentive to life. We simply cannot overlook our obligations because one submits to us. There needs to be the proper balance in our lives to handle each situation.

The tendency to focus on something new is basic among humans. We like the excitement that comes with anything that is different. A new slave fits into this category. On the reverse side, slaves experience the same sensations when they first submit. The desire to interact with a Master is great. One might have the thirst for talking/chatting with a slave throughout the entire day. Of course, this can have some adverse effects depending on One’s place in life.

Few of us are in the position where we can overlook something such as work. This is a responsibility which we need to attend to. Also, family obligations exist regardless of what type of lifestyle W/we pursue. Kids still need our attention and care. This entire situation gets magnified when One owns multiple slaves. The time required to assist each in her progress becomes a continual juggling act. This is where a Master needs to know when to step back.

Often, I will turn off my computer for an evening to the dismay of my slaves. It is something that I need to do. When they call, I will be brief with my conversations. Some will understand that I need this “me time”. Some, unfortunately, do not grasp this concept. Nevertheless, it is something that I need to do. There are a lot of different responsibilities which I carry. For me to be effective, I need to do what is best for my conditioning.

Do not overlook the details of Your life. Failure to do this will come back with negative consequences. Owning a slave(s) can be one of the most exciting things in our lifestyle. However, the challenges can be daunting. Each will want to occupy Your time. And when they don’t receive the attention, they will begin to feel that You are angry or upset with them. This is the inferiority conditioning that many slaves initially have. As a Master, I need to focus on all involved. This includes not only my slaves, but also my business associates, work personnel, family members, and spiritual comrades. Overlooking these other people will cause a lot of rift in my life.

Masters need to take charge. Whatever the reason for Your decisions, make sure You are using sound reasoning when attending to Your different activities. Sometimes a slave just needs to accept that she needs to wait. I find those who have experienced a fair amount of growth handle this with more understanding than the newer ones. A slave will not agree with every decision her Master makes. This is where One’s leadership abilities come into play. Take charge even when Your selections are not well received. That is part of what being a Master is all about.

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This is a word that the business world has torn apart.  Many have analyzed what make one a good leader.  People have also delved into why someone fails to properly lead when put into that position.  Of course, this is too broad a topic to fully disect here.  However, there are a few points that we need to discuss.

A Master is responsible for providing leadership in the relationship.  This is something that many desire to have yet fail to fulfill once they have it.  Being a leader entails being responsible for all that occurs.  As one President liked to say “the buck stops here”.  Many default to the blame mindset; they want to blame others whenever something goes wrong.  It is much easier to do this as compared to personally taking responsibility for what transpires.

Whenever I hear One discussing the breakup of His M/s relationship, I am astounded how few take the proper responsibility for what occurred.   It is common to hear how the slave did everything wrong.  The “if she only” mindset oozes out of every pore.  My quesion is “who was responsible for her”.  Once a Master determines that one is cut out to be a slave, it is His obligation to steer the relationship forward.  Naturally, there are situations that will not work out and where a parting of ways is necessary.  However, it rarely can be solely attributed to the slave’s shortcomings.  A true Master takes responsibility for what happens.

Leadership is not about bossing another around.  Many seem to feel that being dictatorial is how One leads.  This is not.  What this shows is really how insecure One is.  Witness some of the great leaders in history.  Rarely were they yelling at their men.  They were calm in the face of adversity.  Emotional control (mentioned in a number of other posts) is their demeanor.  They were willing to accept the responsbility for the outcome, both positive and negative.

What does all this have to do with the M/s relationship?  This pertains to uncovering One’s willingness to take responsbility for His slave’s grow.  What are you willing to do to make her more valauble?  Too often I see Masters getting their rocks off by having a slave repeatedly perform a task which demeans her.  I am all for the occasional ego-deflation.  It is a necessary part of training.  However, if there is not a solid reason for having a slave do soemthing, why is she doing it?

Here is an example which I heard a number of Masters do.  Webcams are a common in this age.  I heard of a number of Masters having their slaves watch while they were serviced by another.  What struck me as odd, is that they required this on numerous occasions.  When questioned, there was no viable answer for doing this other than for the Master’s pleasure.  Again, I can see this as a way to test the slave; to get her to show her willingness and commitment.  But repeatedly doing this does not seem to enhance her growth at all.  Where is the betterment of her as a slave?  This is what I see as lacking in the leadership department.

A true leader has a reason for having one engage in a particular activity.  His life is improved by her following through on the action.  Of course, not everything is done with a clear lesson or growth opportunity in mind.  Sometimes, One wants to have fun.  However, repreated degrading of a slave shows One lacks in the leadership department.  Is that the best You have to offer a slave?  Unless one is being trained to be a voyeur, there needs to be more to the relationship.

Failure to fulfill Your responsibility will lead to a failed relationship.  Those who cannot accept their part in it are doomed to repeat it again.  Sadly, the vast percentage of relationships end in breakup.  This is a fact of life.  Getting two people to merge their lives together in any capacity is difficult.  Yet it is magnified when one or both parties fail to uphold their part in it.  In the M/s world, leadership must come from the Master.

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Decisiveness is a quality of all great leaders. People follow those with whom they feel confident with. Leaders are continually confronted with decisions which affect others. A quick way to kill morale is for a leader to be uncertain in his or her decision making ability. People lose confidence in a person like that.

In the Master/slave relationship, the Master is the leader. It is He who is responsible for all decisions. Slaves tend to lose faith in their Master when He is uncertain of the choices made. Decisiveness is a way for a Master to increase the confidence His slave has. The presumption is One who can make decisions quickly is strong. Of course, the reverse is a presumed sign of weakness.

So how can One develop this habit? Decisiveness is a quality that can be acquired. It is no something that people are born with. It is a mixture of self confidence with practice. Like any other muscle, the decision making muscle gets stronger the more it is used. Start today making all decisions quickly. Start with the less important decisions before moving to bigger choices. For example, select what to eat for lunch or dinner in less than a minute. Make it quickly and move on. This will set One on the path to a healthy habit.

A Master needs to develop the traits of the world’s great leaders. Although not necessarily running a country or a Fortune 500 company, a Master has the life of his slave(s) in His hands. Because of the total power exchange, He is the One that needs to instill the internal self confidence. Decisiveness is at the core of all great leaders. Implement this into your relationship and witness how much more confidence your slave will have in you.

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