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Absolute, or Total, Power Exchange is  a fundamental premise in the M/s relationship.  It is the one factor which separates it from other relationships.  We have discussed this a bit in the past.  However, I see many who are still somewhat confused by this concept.

Every relationship has a distribution of power.  It might be based upon position such as an employer-employee relationship.  This is more often termed authority but it is a form of power.   There is also the power distribution based upon the strength of the individual.  Here the person takes control based upon the individual personality.  An example would be in a friendship where one party is a dominating figure.  Nevertheless, rarely do any relationships exist where all power resides with one side.  Yet this is exactly the makeup of the M/s relationship.

It is a common misconception that a Master has total power over the relationship.  The truth is that He has total authority.  Whether He has full power over it or not is dependent upon the type of person He is.  Authority is granted by the position of Master.  Power is ceded initially by the slave.  Again, if the Master is weak or misuses that power, He might lose it.

New Masters can often fall into this situation.  They mistakenly believe that once a slave submits, He will maintain the power forever.  This is true in the beginning but I have seen many lose it due to weakness.  This is fairly common when One is dealing with an experienced slave.  For whatever reason, the Master tries to trick her into believing that He knows what He is doing.  Sadly, He is transparent in His ability.  The power she initially gave Him will quickly be lost.

Being abusive creates the same results.  Anyone who physically, mentally, or emotionally abuses a slave will lose the power granted.  Some Masters want to believe that being a slave equates to weakness.  It does not.  I have seen more than One make this mistake.

There is authority in being a Master.  That is something which comes along with the position.  It is granted by Your slaves and others who You encounter.  However, the power over a slave is something that You need to maintain.  I found the best way to maintain it is to help her to keep growing.  This will keep a slave happily invovlved in her development.  Failure to do so will result in the ending of the relationship.  Even though there was a Total Power Exchange, this lifestyle is consensual.  Many slaves have the mindset that they cannot leave until they are released.  However, they can make One’s life miserable if they desire.  There is nothing worse than a defiant slave.

Remember, relationships, even where all authority and power resides with one individual, are a two-way street. If both parties are not being mutually satisfied, the relationship will end.  I believe this is one of the reasons why most M/s relationships last only a short-time.

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This is a quality which is overlooked in our society today. However, throughout the centuries, there were many cultures that promoted service as one of it’s highest traits. An individual who acted in this capacity was worthy of great esteem and regard. This is the feeling that needs to be recaptured especially with slaves.

A slave is someone who selflessly serves her Master in all capacities which she is capable. She does not do it for recognition, prestige, or other benefits. A true slave’s payoff for her service is the happiness of her Master. That is the single response that she is seeking. The inner desire within her is to fulfill the wishes of her Master.

The M/s relationship is much easier when a slave realizes her true role. Thinking in terms of service to her Master eliminates many of the conflicts that can arise. Ask yourself, “is this going to make my Master happy”. Strive to develop the service mindset each day. That is the role that a slave best fulfills. When one seeks other things from her Master, she sets herself up for disappointment. In these instances, she may or may not receive what she seeks. However, one who is always looking to fulfill her Master’s desires will find the payoff that she is looking for.

Often, W/we make the M/s relationship more difficult than it needs to be. Naturally there are the same difficulties that are present with any relationship. However, many seem to want to complicate matters. Remember what it is that you are to fulfill and go about doing it. The pleasure you receive will come if you are continually in the frame of mind to serve. That is your true calling.

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A slave’s desire is to serve. However, one of the simplest ways a slave can increase her value is to realize that her place is to happily serve her Master. Most anyone can serve; yet only a few can do it with the complete willingness to serve in a happy manner. This is what separates slaves in my mind.

Every slave encounters times when her Master asks her to do something that is distasteful to her. Many will question as to why they have to do the particular activity. Of course, this is not her business. A slave’s place is to know what needs to be done, not why. The exception being is if her Master wants her to have this information.

Many will do what is asked for them. Nevertheless, they do so with an attitude which makes seem like a disgruntled child. Doing an activity while pouting the entire time is another form of trying to “control from the bottom”. In essence, she is trying to let her feelings be known how much she dislikes that activity in hopes that Master will change His mind in the future. As a Master, this is really frustrating to me. For those with children, I am sure you can identify.

A slave who willingly goes along with all her Master requests has more value to me. Completing a particular task is one thing; doing it with an upbeat attitude is quite another. It is this which enhances the pleasure a Master will enjoy. A slave who is disgruntled is focusing on her desires (the dislike she has) instead of her Master’s desires. She is making her feelings more important than His. Technically, she is being obedient in following His orders. Yet her lack of enthusiasm shows her concern for herself. This is a misguided focus on the slave’s part.

The sexual arena is a prime example of this. It is common for a Master to want to share His slave sexually. This may include sharing with His friend or perhaps having her engage with another woman. I often hear slaves who state they will go along with it since that is “what Master wants”. Again, the fact that they are focused on their own fears, insecurities, and desires is evident. If it gives your Master pleasure for you to pleasure others, that should be something that one readily approaches. A slave should be able to picture the enjoyment on her Master’s face. Isn’t that what a slave who deeply yearns to serve craves? Those who happily served their Master agree with that idea.

So where is your focus? Are you willing to happily serve your Master in all areas? When you are rejecting an idea, who’s pleasure and welfare are you concerned with? The answers to these questions will enable one to re-evaluate how she is looking at something. Often, this is the change in perspective which is required to enable her to happily accomplish whatever her Master sets out for her.

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