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When people mention BDSM, all sorts of things run through their heads, ropes, whips, pain,tears to name but a few, but very rarely unless you are into this way of life are your first thoughts pleasure, orgasms, bondage,play time, etc etc so why is this ?

I think its because the internet for all its usefulness also portrays it as a way of life that can be cruel and harsh, the pictures found when you search the sites range from vanilla to extreme and unless you are fmiliar with the lifestyle and most of its components * I say most as I really feel that no one person is familiar with ALL the different things BDSM means to others * it can be very intimidating.

One of the first things people like to experiment with is bondage, and this is something that can be built on over time, starting out with a simple hand tying then building to ankles and finally full body and suspension, as with all things it is recommended that you do not jump the stages, a novice is not really qualified to do full body suspension bondage as it can have disasterous results !! Take your time, enjoy each stage and learn from it while having fun, its a great way to also build up the trust in a relationship as well.

My advice to all who are interested in this varid and extremely fulfilling way of life is to experiment and see what works for you and your partner, there is no right or wrong and no one way to live this life, the only limitations are the ones you both place upon it – but most of all HAVE FUN !!

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When a Master and slave/ Dom and sub play, be it in a scene or in private, there are many ways they can enhance the pleasure felt by both, spanking, bondage, wax play, these are to name just a few, they can take things as far as they are both comfortable with, ultimately it is the Masters/Doms choice in the type of play but they will be ever mindful of their sub/slave as this is not about abuse but pleasure.
One way to add to a play or scene is to add a bit of ‘ torture’ to the pussy, and this can be as soft or extreme as you are both comfortable with, I am not suggesting that you abuse your property and the term Torture is misleading but it is simply the adding of clamps, clips, pegs or even a bit of rope to an already aching pussy desperate to orgasm, Imagine the intensity of adding a pet to an already throbbing clit, the pleasure/pain the slave feels is intense * or so mine tell me *

Swollen pussy lips are just ripe for adding clamps to, a chain attached to the clamps can make things more sensual, a slight tug on the chain will soon have them begging for an orgasm, clamp the lips and the clit, then flick the clamps lightly, again, the arching her body will let you know she is loving it.

During a play session or a scene the pussy is one of the most sensitive parts of her body, there is so much more that can be done to it apart from just filling it, play with it, experiment, and enjoy the results

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Much in this way of life is said about a sub or slave serving her Dom/Master, that it is His pleasure that matters, no matter what the task is it is His satisfaction that is important be it fetching Him a drink or during a scene, what He wishes is what is important and there is no geater time that this is evident than in oral sex.

Very few subs or slaves can honestly say they can orgasm from giving their Dom or Master oral sex yet they do this if it is asked of them, so why when they receive no pleasure themselves do they want to do it ? Simply put it is because it pleases their Dom or Master.

Submitting to another means you will do as they wish within the boundries of your relationship and this is more evident when it involves sex, as this is where even those who are not in a 24/7 relationship tend to submit, and the pleasure of the Owner is always the focus.

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One thing I have noticed talking to my slaves, other Doms and Masters and other subs and slaves is that the use of toys within the sexual play is something that is growing, and with all the new things available on the market this is again something that is hard to say ” This one is the one you should use ” Many like the use of butt plugs, others vibrators, some like to use toys when teaching orgasm denial, again this is something that the individuals involved have to be comfortable with and as each peson is different then what works well for one is not guarenteed to have the same effect on another, that said one thing I have noticed being used more and more is the MAGIC WAND * and no I am not on comission for them but if they would like to send me a new one I for one will not complain and I doubt if my slaves would either *

The wand is a hand held * sometimes* wand massager which vibrates at about 500/600 sins per minute, used initially for massages it is used more and more for sexual pleasures, when placed on the pussy,nipples or balls it is very hard to not orgasm, and at a price of between $40 – $60 it is one of the most economical toys available, powered by electricity there is not cost of batteries unless you get a travel one.

I would recommend this wand for any one that asks, having listened to my slaves begging me to either stop or not stop, * and being a good Master, I love to stop when asked and watch their faces drop in disappointment and then hear them beg for me to not stop* It certainly enhances the foreplay for all involved

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Kitten is always talking about the good stuff, the pleasure she gets from serving Master, the feelings she has about this life and what it means to her as a slave, but what about the other side, as with all things when there is a wonderful side there has to be a down side, this is something kitten thinks many tend to ignore, and it can and often does lead to false hopes and impressions.

An owned slave and sub have not control over their Master/Dom, none what so ever, they control YOU you do not control THEM and that is more apparent when they do something you do not like and wish they wouldn’t. Kitten is not talking sexually, well maybe in a way she is but not sex with you but with another.

How would you react when your Master tells you He is not going to be home for a week as He is seeing another sister/sex partner/friend/ fuck buddy? Do you question Him? Ask why? Wonder why you are not enough for His needs and desires? Do you have a temper tantrum and sulk? All of the above are a sure fire way to either a punishment or if carried on release, you have nothing to say about it, it is not your choice, you are His to do with as He desires but He can and often does wish for more than you and you should be happy for Him, grateful that He is being looked after, and content in the knowledge that you are His and that is enough.

A Master or a Dom more often than not has more than one who serve Him, in today’s society living in a poly house is the exception and not the rule and sometimes it is easier when all the sisters are under the same roof, the feelings that bond a sister together are intensified and if a Master goes to one instead of another then that is not thought of as anything else but natural, but if the Master has many slaves in different houses then His choice on who and what He does becomes an issue with some and that is where you need to look at what you are doing and is this the right step for you, just because He is not with you does not mean He does not own you, He still has control and His rules still stand.

In a vanilla life if your partner was to leave you for a week to be with another He would be accused of having an affair and you would be the wronged party, in this life that is not the case, if you question, sulk, hell in some cases follow and try too interfere then YOU are in the wrong, it is not for you to decide what Master does and who He does it with, that will never be your decision.

So ask yourself these questions

If Master was to leave you for a week to be with another, could you accept it with the grace and happiness Master deserves?

Would you question Him and ask why you were not enough for Him, ask why He needs more that you to satisfy Him , ask what is wrong with you as a slave and where you are failing Him in serving ALL His needs?

Would you welcome Him back with arms open and the knowledge that He still cares, and then try to do all you can to stop Him needing to stray again?

Would you still be there when He returned or would you be a woman scorned and leave?

Would you be the one who believes she can change Him so He needs no others ?

Would you keep reminding Him that He left you for another and how much that hurt and plead with Him not to do it again?

Finally ask, could you cope with Him doing it over and over again?

Kitten knows many see this life as an answer to problems that plague them, its not, it is just another way to live but if new to this then seeing it through rose coloured glasses is not the right way, there are many sides to this life style, not just great sex.

This was submitted by kitten http://akittenone.wordpress.com

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These Are Not Meant To Scare Anyone!

These are extreme pics which shows one aspect of the BDSM lifestyle. This is what people usually associate with when they think of this way of life. Sadly, most never get past these images to learn what this is all about. While there are some who find bondage such as this pleasurable; many do not. The bottom line is there is room for both. The BDSM world is a one that can encompass many people. We look forward to helping you with your search.

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What is the appeal to so many of BDSM? Why do those who get invovled with this choose to do so?

Sex is the most basic of instincts. It is also one of the most powerful energies that exists in the universe. Consider what people did throughout the ages for sex. Man (in the mankind sense) has gone to great lengths to satisfy this craving. It is something that drives people to act completely irrationally.

The topic of sex is something that many have tried to stiffle. As a basic act, it is necessary to engage in for the survival of the race. Procreation includes sex as part of the process. However, many try to present an image that the enjoyment of sex is bad. That it is dirty and something to be ashamed of. Many in society tried to paint the subject as something taboo.

This is part of the allure of BDSM. Many like the idea of being on the side of something considered bad, no matter how irrational society’s outlook. Yet that is just a part of it. There are also those who choose to be responsible for their own experiences. They shed the ideals of others and take control of their own lives. This includes the sexual arena.

Sex is designed to be enjoyed. In fact, it is meant to be thoroughly enjoyed. It feels so good at many different levels. In addition, people have found there are an assortment of desires such as submission which can be fulfilled sexually. BDSM offers such as array of sexual techniques that many find satisfaction in ways they never experienced. Experimentation is a common element within this arena. Many try things they never dreamed possible. It is exciting to see how one’s sexual limits can be expanded.

Freedom is a big part of the BDSM lifestyle. Even those who are in monogamous relationships are free in their mindset. It is one which throws off the societal limitations that are prevalant within most cultures. People who engage in it seek to derive all the pleasure they can from the sexual experience. Fulfilling the needs of oneself and others is a high priority. Basically, people are free to be who they are. Submissives find a wonderful and satifying outlet while Doms can safely exercise that desire within themselves. It is an opportunity that few can find anywhere else.

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The biggest mistakes men are as follows:

1. Foreplay doesn’t start in the sack.

The timer for enticing does not start once you hit the sheets. Your pre-game show is best approached as an all-day affair.

Women love to be wooed. Sex is a head game and women want to know you can’t get them out of your mind. We love knowing that we are desired.

2. Don’t head south straight away.

Diving in for the genitals too soon usually isn’t the best idea. A woman needs to be properly aroused before any below-the-belt action feels good.

Be sure to focus on her entire body, head to toe, before going for the gold.

3. Remember the clitoris.

Many men think a woman’s orgasm results from penetration.

More than 70 per cent of women experience clitoral orgasm when it comes to maximum reaction, so men need to make sure they are not ignoring the clitoris.

It also helps if you actually know where the clitoris is, some men have been known to rub the urethral opening, which can be a big no-no for some ladies.

4. Get to that G spot.

In digging for buried treasure, many guys don’t know that ‘X’ doesn’t always mark the spot. Found on the front wall of the vagina, a woman’s G spot may be a little higher or lower, or more to one side than the other, than often depicted.

5. Don’t be too goal-oriented.

There is nothing more endearing than a man who wants to play. Just don’t get caught up in yourself. Your sexual exploration should be playtime for two.

Stay ‘present’ in the moment, connecting with your partner will bring the ultimate climax for both of you.

6. Thinking you’re still hot after gaining weight.

‘For better or worse’ should include weight fluctuations, but don’t let yourself go completely.

7. Let her be naughty.

Sometimes she needs to get in touch with her adulterated side. In fact, research has found that women are more aroused by explicit fantasies than romantic ones. It’s not always about the prince on a white horse or canoodling on the beach.

8. She’s not a porn star.

As seen in porn films, many men expect their lovers to fulfill their every fantasy. Remember that porn is fantasy, not reality. Expecting her to act like a porn star is simply not fair.

9. And men aren’t supposed to look like porn stars.

Despite what XXX-rated films indicate, most women are not lusting after a three-legged man. Maybe some women are up for the challenge, but many are fine with the guy who fits within the norm. Don’t be too hard on yourself for being just that.

10. One orgasm is not always enough.

Women are not as quick to come down from their aroused state as men are post-sex. Many can be launched right back to bliss, and many women do crave more action and orgasms, even if they were perfectly satisfied the first time round.

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Here is something that would be helpful to know.  What is the top sexual position for women.  In a study done of almost 50,000 women, this position was the favorite by 50%.  This was far ahead of any other single position.  So if you want to pleasure your girl, put her in this position and you have a 50/50 chance of hitting her favorite.

The Position is know in the Kama Sutra as The Emperor.

Remember this the next time you are with that special someone.  Try it and see what results you get.  There is a good chance you will give her something she was craving for a long time.

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Here are a couple of simple ways to get into BDSM. They are simple, low cost, yet will offer all the feelings of what this lifestyle has to offer.


The next time you are in a sexual situation with a partner who is interested, try these tips.

1. To begin, have an old necktie available. One can acquire these at any thrift shop for a dollor or two. Try to avoid the desire to use one of your newer ties since they can get wrecked. Start the process by having your partner overlapping his/her hands behind the back. At this point use the tie to bind the hands together. I like to make a figure 8 with the tie going in between the wrists.

You have now entered the world of bondage. Full control over this person is yours in this situation. The dominant streak within you is fulfilled while the submissive side of the other is also taken care of. You can now manuever your partner into giving you oral sex, bend her over and take her from behind, or bgin nipple play. Each of this activities will extend from the defenseless position she has now taken.

2. The second way to get into this lifestyle is to have an ordinary wooden clothespin. This is an item that most households have laying around. If not, a package of them can be gotten for a dollar. Take the clothespin and attach it to your partners nipple. This will stimulate some sensations within him or her. The pinching adds another level to the experiences.

You can also attach the clothespins to the genitals also. If the sub is female, clip the clothespin to her pussy lips. Warning: be sure to avoid the clit as this can cause some damage. Go lower down on the lips where there nerve endings are less. On a male, the same can be done. Put the clothespin in his nutsack or even on the base of his cock. Again, avoid the part of the dick near the top since this is where his nerve endings are.

There you have it. You have just entered into the world of bondage. Experiment with your partner to determine all that he or she likes. Most find they like a great deal more than they initially figure.

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