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As readers of this blog know I love to experiment and play around with different aspects of BDSM, indeed with out experimentation and ‘trial and error’ how is one to know what is enjoyable to them and their subs/slaves ?

One of the things that has come as no surprise to me is the pleasure that my slave gets from waxing – this was something she was uncertain of previously as she had had a bad experience at the hands of an untrained Master and so it was something that while she knew I enjoyed doing she was understandably reluctant to actually have it done to her. It took time slowly build up the trust needed but when that trust was there 100% and she allowed herself to move past the memories she has now found it is something that awards us both a great deal of pleasure. I am a great believer in safety and being aware of the mindset of your sub or slave – use your eyes and your knowledge of those you own to keep them safe.

I have put together a few basic points to try to ensure the fun is had by all

Candle wax for BDSM play should not cause burns. There can be a reddening of the skin but this should clear up in a few hours at the most.

⃙ Avoid beeswax candles as Beeswax burns at a much higher temperature than plain paraffin candles and can cause burns.
⃙Avoid beef tallow candles. Wax made from animal fat can be extremely hot and cause burning.
⃙ Avoid candles with metallic colours, these often contain poisonous metallic salts.
⃙ Avoid scented candles. Scented candles burn at a higher temperature because of their perfume content and may cause scalding.
⃙ Avoid candles with metal wicks, metal wick can drip hot molten metal on the sub/slave
Have a bucket of water or fire extinguisher close by, a candle can be knocked over very easily especially if the sub/slave is ‘writhing’ around, a tied sub/slave and a bed on fire is not a good combination.

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When people mention BDSM, all sorts of things run through their heads, ropes, whips, pain,tears to name but a few, but very rarely unless you are into this way of life are your first thoughts pleasure, orgasms, bondage,play time, etc etc so why is this ?

I think its because the internet for all its usefulness also portrays it as a way of life that can be cruel and harsh, the pictures found when you search the sites range from vanilla to extreme and unless you are fmiliar with the lifestyle and most of its components * I say most as I really feel that no one person is familiar with ALL the different things BDSM means to others * it can be very intimidating.

One of the first things people like to experiment with is bondage, and this is something that can be built on over time, starting out with a simple hand tying then building to ankles and finally full body and suspension, as with all things it is recommended that you do not jump the stages, a novice is not really qualified to do full body suspension bondage as it can have disasterous results !! Take your time, enjoy each stage and learn from it while having fun, its a great way to also build up the trust in a relationship as well.

My advice to all who are interested in this varid and extremely fulfilling way of life is to experiment and see what works for you and your partner, there is no right or wrong and no one way to live this life, the only limitations are the ones you both place upon it – but most of all HAVE FUN !!

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Spanking is one of the main aspects of BDSM, that and bondage, add them together and the pleasure is intense, but even when taken separately the fun and enjoyment received from all parties is something that I personally love. There is something about having a bare ass, waiting for the strike of my hand, the feel of the crop that I am wielding or the flogger as I lay it across her ass that I find a great turn on, and if the sub or slave is what I term a ‘pain slut’ then the spankings and the slapping become even more enjoyable.

One thing I have found is that is a sub or slave enjoys the paddle across her ass, then as a punishment it is not something that can have the desired effect, upon saying that, if a certain piece of equipment, say a rubber flogger, is used solely for punishment then they will in time learn to associate that with wrong doing, so it will have the desired effect, however I prefer to use other methods in punishment with those subs and slaves as the message comes across clearer that they have displeased me in some way.

The strength behind a slap or a spanking is something that can be built on, remember we are not trying to ‘break’ them by putting all our strength behind whipping them, that then goes from pleasure to abuse, however we are wanting to strike them hard enough for them to feel it, to enjoy it and build their threshold.
Practice with things you have lying around the house, a fly swat can deliver a nice spank as can a hair brush or slipper, in fact even a news paper when rolled tightly can make a sub or slave groan in pleasure and pain, the only limit to what is used is your imagination and your sub/slaves threshold.

Have fun and enjoy all that this activity can add to your sex life.

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When a Master and slave/ Dom and sub play, be it in a scene or in private, there are many ways they can enhance the pleasure felt by both, spanking, bondage, wax play, these are to name just a few, they can take things as far as they are both comfortable with, ultimately it is the Masters/Doms choice in the type of play but they will be ever mindful of their sub/slave as this is not about abuse but pleasure.
One way to add to a play or scene is to add a bit of ‘ torture’ to the pussy, and this can be as soft or extreme as you are both comfortable with, I am not suggesting that you abuse your property and the term Torture is misleading but it is simply the adding of clamps, clips, pegs or even a bit of rope to an already aching pussy desperate to orgasm, Imagine the intensity of adding a pet to an already throbbing clit, the pleasure/pain the slave feels is intense * or so mine tell me *

Swollen pussy lips are just ripe for adding clamps to, a chain attached to the clamps can make things more sensual, a slight tug on the chain will soon have them begging for an orgasm, clamp the lips and the clit, then flick the clamps lightly, again, the arching her body will let you know she is loving it.

During a play session or a scene the pussy is one of the most sensitive parts of her body, there is so much more that can be done to it apart from just filling it, play with it, experiment, and enjoy the results

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One part of BDSM that I personally find exciting is BONDAGE. This could be the simple tying or a sub or slaves hands together, either with a rope, scarf, handcuffs, even cling film *saran wrap * can be used as a means of restricting their movements, and that is what bondage is, the restricting of another persons movements and ability to touch or prevent another touching them.

The method and extent of how you bind your sub or slave is something that is individual to each relationship, some prefer light bondage, thus giving the sub or slave some movement, others prefer extreme bondage, giving the sub or slave no movement at all. Some prefer ropes, others prefer belts and straps, scarf’s can be used as can neck ties and stockings or tights, the limit to what you can use is only hindered by your imagination.

I feel at this stage I should mention a few things ……….

  1. 1 Leaving a sub or slave tied in one position for a long period of time is not good for her circulation, always make sure what ever you use is not too tight that is does restrict circulation and that you can remove the bonds quickly in an emergency
  2. 2 Take all the pictures that you see on the internet with a pinch of salt, the majority of these are staged and not actually real to life,
  3. 3 While we would all love to have a co jointed sub or slave, they are very rare, remember not everyone can get their feet behind their ears, and trying to tie your sub in this position could hurt them

Experiment with different things, different ways to bind your sub or slave, use different things to achieve the results, but most of all have fun and enjoy yourself

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In BDSM, there is no place off limits * obviously this is something you have talked about and agreed on prior to the scene or during the process of submission* Most Doms and Masters like to show thier property off, they like to share with others, be it with others in their poly family or with other friends within the lifestyle, however, that said, most of those I know have always said that the anus is off limits to everyone but them, this is the ‘Forbidden Hole’ the one that is used by the Dom or Master only. Now why this is I really have no idea, it might be because anal sex was something frowned upon up until 10/15 years ago, it was alwas considered ‘perverted’ and not something ‘normal’ people did, how wrong they were !

Anal sex is something enjoyed by most in this life and in the vanilla as well, it is one more step to total submission by a sub or slave when they open all thier body for their Owner to take, to own and make it their own. It could be said that to take it a step further is to then go ass to mouth but that is up to the people involved as it is not something everyone can do.

Anal sex brings another aspect of pleasure into the BDSM life style, just think, how erotic is it to fuck an ass that you have made warm by spanking or paddling ? To have a sub or slave tied with her ass in the air waiting for you to decide what you are going to do, or even if you place a butt plug in while you pound her pussy, an ass hook for added fun, the posibilities are endless and the ass is no longer the forbidden hole to you.

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When people think of BDSM one of the first things they think of is spankings and bondage, and that is true for about 90% of those in this lifestyle, however we are still normal people, and we, like everyone else enjoy a laugh and a bit of fun, and if we can inject that into things we do relating to this life then all the more fun can be had.

That said I have brought together a light hearted post on floggers and paddles, don’t get me wrong, they can still deliver the desired effect but with a smile on the Dom or Masters face while He is paddling an ass with a flogger made of leather flowers ! All of the things I have collected for you can be found at the following sites, take a look, they have some wonderful products for your enjoyment

http://www.edenfantasys.com
http://www.rosybottom.com

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